A Love Letter To You: Who Is Battling Fibroids

Hello,

From the title of this blog post am sure you are expecting poetic, love filled worded paragraphs to follow.

Well, let’s just say this might take a totally different turn as I want to explain or rather unpack the importance of understanding your identity as a journey towards embracing healing.

Good news, I am now a 6 months’ fibroid warrior (fibroid free).

I truly thank God. It feels like a re-birth of sorts, like I have just started living!

God is so faithful; wont he do it!

Hold up though, I was in your shoes once (check my blog post on, All Things Fibroids to learn about my fibroid journey if you are new here or don’t know my story) I understand the trauma and weight having fibroids and specifically symptomatic fibroids can have on your well-being as far as physical and mental wholeness goes.

As Valentine’s day seems to be drawing near, my heart goes towards everyone who believes the worlds painted picture that one day should settle the score card as to whether people who are in romantic relationships are loved or not. Quite sad if you ask me, I mean if you haven’t been loving on me days/months/years before this one day I don’t understand the relevance this one specific day would have on our relationship! This made me reflect on last year’s Valentine’s when I was at home nursing my sick self.

I was sipping on some juice, waiting for my next trip to the loo to change my sanitary towel which then would get soaked up every 30 minutes. I know, horrific! Valentines, Christmas etc. looked like any other day for me, there wasn’t any excitement, no sparkle, no vigor for living in my soul. I would have traded anything to get my reproductive health back to its normal.

This has stirred in me the need to share how Realizing My Identity got me to survive and conquer those days.

Let me first begin my stating that, I know what it feels like to be battling thoughts that sound like, you are:

1.Forgotten

2.Hurting

3.Ugly

4.Alone

5.Angry

6. Confused

You can add to this list how you feel right at this moment.

How about I tell you, that you are not any of this things!

Am not saying this to just make you feel better! Absolutely not!

All am saying is that:

The FIBROID AILMENT has tainted your IDENTITY!

WORD: You cannot be fibroid free or physically and mentally whole (which I believe starts in the mind) without fixing your identity crisis.

Tabby, what do you mean?

Let’s get a little clarity here, your identity sis is not your calling or your purpose! Nope!

The world's perspective isn’t tied to your identity.

Your identity is not your job title, the fact that you are a wife, a mum, a daughter etc.

Your identity is simply who you believe you are!

Whatever you confess/ say/ declare you are, then you are it.

The Reason why you are battling with the idea of SELF-LOVE every day is because the world has elevated the standards of who you ought to be (what your identity should look like) to look like, success, being married, having children, having a 6 figure job etc.

That’s why you feel:

1. Tied up in trends that are popular

2. Feel like a FAILURE when you fail

3. Take up a job you are not supposed to, just to look like you have it all together

4. Take up an undergraduate course that others insist on you doing

5. Blind copying everyone’s life on Social Media

6. Struggle with the idea of loving yourself even when you are unwell.

Sis, you are not your shame or guilt!

That shame you feel when you mess your clothes, the shame you feel when you don’t want to say why you can’t attend that event, the shame you feel when you can’t make love to your spouse etc. because you have symptomatic fibroids isn’t tied to your identity.

YOU DON’T HAVE FIBROIDS, you are JUST BATTLING FIBROIDS!

See what I did there? You are soon to be a fibroid warrior!

This mindset will end up changing how you approach the condition because you will be seemingly without your knowledge start changing the stigma around fibroids you are battling and instead you will start embracing wholeness.

SO, do yourself a favor, let’s put pen to paper or get onto your notepad on your phone and write down who you believe you are.

That’s it! There you have it! That’s your identity!

Now go on and love on that, the very person you are.

Remember you cannot love yourself if you really don’t know who you are!

Xoxo,

Tabitha Ndichu

Founder, My Red Is Beautiful